Coffee Cup Chats is a weekly column where we all meet up, morning java in hand, to tackle some of the issues artistpreneurs deal with daily. It's a place for sharing stories, learning, and laughing at ourselves. Today's post is a follow up to my post that was featured on Design*Sponge about escaping the comparison trap. I hope you like it. As always, please let me know your thoughts, add-ons, insights, etc. in the comments! xo.
"Don’t compare your behind the scenes to
someone else’s highlight reel."
"Featured again on [insert the coolest blog in your genre here]"
"So thrilled to be invited to [cool industry thing that you weren't invited to]"
"Had so much fun hanging out with [namedrop] at [locationdrop] last night"
"I just love my job! I get to travel to [exotic location] and hang out with [killer adjective] people."
We're all a part of it. The constant barrage of fantastical goodness that is the image of life put in front of our eyes by social media. Everyone is perfectly styled and beautiful. Everyone is doing fantastic things. Everyone is hanging out in the most exotic and wonderful locations. Everyone is friends with everyone except (seemingly) you. And to be quite honest (because it's pretty much what I do here, if you haven't caught on yet) it can all be a bit overwhelming. Especially if you are one of the millions of people in the world who happens to be going through some real stuff right now. Real real.
No one likes to air their skeletons or their dirty laundry. And when your business and your social media overlap and combine it can be hard to share things that aren't 100% sunny for fear of appearing unprofessional or ungrateful. And that's fine. And that's probably smart. Social media is what it is. I'm not here to try to redesign the wheel. All I'm saying is that we need to remember what it is and that it is a shiny spinning spectrum of all the best things happening in the lives of the people we know. Its it a true representation? Absofuckinglutely not. When you read twitter or facebook or even Pinterest, remember that you are viewing the world that it presents you through the rose colored glasses of positivity. Everyone is only sharing the best things- their highlight reel. So when you start to get down (as it's so easy to do) reading amazing thing after amazing thing that is happening for the people you follow (and not so much happening for you right now) remember that they've probably got some real shit going down in their lives behind the scenes as well. And if they don't right now, they probably have before. What's that quote? "Be kind because everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle"? I think that's how it goes. And it's true. Everyone has loads of crap happening behind the scenes. So stop comparing your real life with everyone else's highlight reel. It's difficult, I know. And let me tell you, it's okay not to be okay all the time. Sometime's life is messy and sometimes it completely sucks and it's dark and dreary and sad and intense and all those things make you the wondrous person that you are so it's okay. It's okay if you're in a gloomy space, you don't have to be sunny all the time.
In fact, just turn off twitter and facebook and your computer in general and go outside for a few minutes. Reconnect with this twirling gemstone of a planet that you live on. Breathe in the invisible substance that sustains every cell in your being and marvel at the fact that you are traveling through the expanses of space at 67,000 miles per hour and yet you feel like your stuck standing still. Stretch your muscles. Watch the trees bend in the breeze. Feel the sun on your skin. Feel the warmth from a star so far away from you that that light took 8 minutes to get to you and traveled 93 million miles. The Universe is conspiring on your behalf. Bask in it. You are here, right now. This is your life. Now go back inside and tweet about how gorgeous it is outside and make someone sitting under a dreary sky jealous.
Just kidding. ;)